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Tuesday, October 31, 2006
Those Who Choose
choose to hate, that those who choose to hate,
may choose to love, before it is too late.
*-- Esoligh (Underground Hip Hop Artist)
Each new hour holds new chances, for new beginings.
The horizon move forward, offering you
space to place new steps of change.
*-- Maya Angelou
Behold the turtle: He only makes progress
when he sticks his neck out.
*--James Bryant Conant 1893-1978, Educator and Diplomat
The Intuitive Squirrel: Sometimes Big Messages come from Small Packages - By Katharine Giovanni
I was driving down the road on my way to a doctor's appointment the other day when I saw a squirrel sitting by the side of the road. In the very next instant, this same little squirrel darted across the road right into traffic. Now Kildaire Farm Road is a VERY busy road, so I held my breath for the little guy as I was certain he wouldn't make it across. Incredibly he made it to the other side safe and sound. Then he quickly picked up something and without skipping a beat, ran across the busy road again!!! Completely fascinated, I watched as a truck swerved to avoid hitting it, and silently cheered when the trusting squirrel made it back to his tree safe and sound. Impossible as it may sound, this all happened in the time span of about 20 seconds.
<p>Now you might be asking yourself why I am telling you this story?Because I am that squirrel!
Lately, Ron and I have been juggling an incredible number of projects. Each has a financial "burden" attached to it and each has a deadline. Factor in two kids, the 3 other companies we're running right now and a new book that I'm writing and voila! I am that squirrel. I am racing across the street, dodging cars and potholes left and right trying to get safely to the other side.
Have you ever felt like that? You know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but if you can't see it, then you must rely on faith and intuition to get you there.
I'll say that one again. It's a matter of faith and trusting your intuition.
My intuition is telling me to keep going and all will be well. My faith is what is getting me through each day. Faith that my "intuition" is correct and leading us the right way.
Easy for me to say right?
You now might be thinking - reality check Katharine! It's hard to have faith in something we can't see!!! You might be thinking that your "cars" are huge and impossible to dodge safely.
Hmm...a very good point actually. Yet that darn squirrel had faith. AND HE MADE IT TO THE OTHER SIDE!!!
In fact, he did it twice.
There's a huge lesson here. I knew it the instant I saw that squirrel. Have complete faith and trust your intuition when it tells you that everything will work out fine. My inner voice is my internal compass that keeps me going in the right direction and is guiding me across that road. Sure there are huge cars coming at me and potholes to jump over, but I'll get there.
Hey, if the squirrel can do it so can I! He had faith that he would make it back home to his tree safe and sound. He had no doubts and no fears. He simply knew that he would.
Here's another powerful example from the animal world. NOT ONE animal was hurt or killed by the Tsunami! They all trusted their intuition and followed their inner voices to safety.
These beautiful animals are offering us an incredible lesson.
Have no doubt that you will be able to cross your road!!! Trust your intuition and listen to your inner voice. Let it guide you safely across and before you know it, your prosperity will be at hand. You can do this!!! Whatever problems are on your "road." You can get across. Your intuition is like your own personal lighthouse. It's there to guide you safely into the harbor. All you have to do is listen.
I learned a lot from that little squirrel as he taught me a valuable lesson. He reminded me that if you have faith, you can do anything.
Godspeed little guy, and thank you.
Katharine Giovanni has been a meeting/event planner and concierge for over 20 years and has set up five successful businesses: Meeting Planning Plus, Triangle Concierge, NewRoad Publishing, XPACS and Triangle International. She is Triangle Concierge's senior trainer and speaker and is the author of their best-selling book "The Concierge Manual" as well as the author of the "In-House Concierge Manual". She is also the Chairman of the Board of the International Concierge and Errand Association. A dynamic public speaker, Katharine has been a speaker at seminars and conferences around the country, and has appeared on both radio and television. She is the author of the acclaimed inspirational book "God, is that you?" Katharine can be reached through her websites at http://www.triangleconcierge.com; http://www.katharinegiovanni.com or http://www.triangleinternational.com
Monday, October 30, 2006
Untold Peace and Happiness
In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.
*-- Dr. Robert Muller
Good timber does not grow with ease; the stronger
the wind, the stronger the trees.
*-- J. Willard Marriott
Founder of Marriott Hotels
"Someday" may never come. So live each day better
than the last. That way you'll wake up with so much
excitement and anticipation you'll jump out of bed
and shout "I can't wait!"
*-- Bob Perks
Goals And Motivation A Simple Formula - By Tim Connor
Motivation is one of the most personal issues there is for salespeople. Research has concluded that everyone has the potential for great motivation, but not everyone is willing to pay the motivational price to achieve whatever their dreams, desires or hopes are. A critical question that many people never really ask themselves is: what motivates me? What are some of the traditional motivators:
1. Money.
2. Security.
3. Fame.
4. Power.
5. Prestige.
6. Ego gratification
7. Winning.
8. Being the best.
9. Doing your best.
10. Your family.
11. Your future.
12. Your past.
13. Not losing.
14. Personal satisfaction.
15. Approval of others.
16. To prove a point.
17. To get even.
18. To feel worthwhile.
19. To impress others.
20. To control others or situations.
Any of these sound familiar or drive you? Do any keep you going when you are on the verge of quitting, giving up or throwing in the towel?
Let’s look at some of the common demotivators.
For years - thousands of managers, hundreds of speakers and trainers and dozens of authors have been preaching the benefits and value of: Self-motivation and goals as a way to achieve success, wealth and happiness.
A de-motivator is: anything - a person, or a circumstance - that acts upon you - and your interpretation of them or it and your subsequent behavior is negative, passive or self-destructive. There are hundreds of examples of de-motivators – here are just a few:
-negative people.
-people who invalidate you.
-people who don’t listen, care or are interested in you or your thoughts or ideas.
-an incorrect personal interpretation of failure, problems and/or adversity.
-goals that are consistently too high or too low.
-managers who rely on fear and punishment as motivators.
There are, six basic steps to peak performance behavior and results when it comes to self-motivation and goals:
1. Know what you want.
2. Know why you want it.
3. Know how you will get it.
4. Know what may stand in your way to achieve it: (outside -
circumstances/people/events or inside - attitudes/emotions/fears/doubts)
5. Become aware of the outside-in and inside-out de-motivators and develop a
plan to deal with them, prevent them or manage them.
6. Do something. Begin. Start.
De-motivators come in all shapes and sizes. They can be your personal demons that no one but you are ever aware of or they can be a corporate policy or family rule that contributes to an – I don’t care anymore attitude. Apathy is one of the most destructive human emotions when it comes to performance, productivity, happiness, success, motivation and overall behavior.
Conduct an internal as well as external self – audit of your de-motivators. Identify them, question their purpose and value in your life, decide if it is time to rid yourself of their power over you or - learn to live with the consequences of keeping them in your life.
One of the best ways to improve self-motivation and personal performance is to eliminate the de-motivators from your life, whatever form they take.
Do you have a consistent goal philosophy?
Even a goal to do nothing is a goal. Everyone has goals, they just define them, move toward them or away from with a variety of perspectives or rationales. There are two primary reasons for setting goals. First they give you focus. Second they give you direction.
Focus. Without focus it is difficult to hit a bulls-eye, take a good picture or avoid getting killed on a busy highway. Focus is an essential ingredient in successful people. They keep their eye on the ball. Yes, there are distractions, unexpected circumstances and unknowns that will impact your keeping your focus, but focus you must if you want to succeed.
Direction. The ultimate achievement of a goal is less important than the ability to continue working towards it. Many people achieve their goals and are disappointed once they get it. A goal once achieved is a milestone yes, but you can’t just sit back and rest on your previous success. Even a shark will die if it doesn’t keep moving forward.
When a winner doesn’t reach a goal they reexamine what needs to change and then changes the time frame to achieve it. When a loser doesn’t reach a goal, they re-examine and then change the goal. Don’t worry about the destination, keep your eye on the ball in the present with what you can do now, not tomorrow. Do something every day to move a little closer to your objective.
You can’t have everything in your life you want but you can have anything. Keep the understanding of this principle clear in your mind. To set goals and not put accountability into the process is like whistling in the wind. You are living in fantasy-land if you think you will achieve your goals for this year if you have not made progress toward them and you do not have some benchmarks or checkpoints along the way.
Here are a few questions to consider:
1. Are you satisfied with your progress toward your goals?
2. If, not which ones are you behind on?
3. Why?
4. Are you ahead of schedule on any of your goals?
5. Which ones?
6. Why?
7. Is it time to let go of any of your goals?
8. Is it time to add some new goals to this year’s list?
9. Who or what is affecting your negative goal progress?
10. Who or what is impacting your positive goal progress?
11. If you could go back to last year and begin this goal-setting process all over
again would you have done differently?
12. What are you going to change in the next three months to ensure you are on
target for your important goals?
Keep the goalsetting process simple and practical.
Some things to consider as you go through this process:
1. Set time deadlines for your goals.
2. Know the difference between tangible and intangible goals.
3. Reward yourself when you reach a goal.
4. Update them at least every year.
5. Share mutual goals with other people who can help you, influence you or will be impacted by them.
6. Set both short (hourly – 6 months) and long term goals (6 months to lifetime goals).
7. Record your accomplished goals in a journal.
8. Be willing to abandon a goal when you have lost interest.
9. Accept the fact that patience and faith are virtues.
10. Know your reasons for wanting to reach a goal.
11. Relax and enjoy the process.
12. Life is not about the result, but the process of becoming.
13. Accept the fact that you can’t do it all, have it all, learn it all, see it all, become it all, share it all in one lifetime.
14. Goalsetting is not a short term fix, but a life time philosophy.
15. Life can change in a heartbeat.
16. Goals change as your interests, age and circumstances change.
17. Don’t edit the goalsetting process as you proceed thorough the steps. (I don’t have the time now. I
can’t afford it now etc. Don’t worry about being realistic in the beginning. The purpose of the process
is to add realism as you go.
18. Goals should be achievable, but also require some stretch.
19. Get in the habit of working on paper with your goalsetting.
20. Recognize that achieving goals takes effort, commitment, time and skills.
Common contributors to a lack of goalsetting success.
1. Lack of commitment to the process.
2. Impatience.
3. Lack of follow through.
4. Lack of self-honesty.
5. Consistently setting goals too high.
6. No anticipating roadblocks.
7. Not allowing for enough time to reach the goal.
8. Setting only long term goals.
9. Setting only tangible goals.
10. A lack of support, resources from people who can help you.
11. Working towards a goal you don’t believe in or really want.
12. Not believing you will ever reach it.
13. Quitting too soon.
14. Not starting.
15. Poor records regarding your progress.
Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com.
Sunday, October 29, 2006
Diamonds Are Not Found
diamonds are not found in polished stones. They are made."
*-- Henry B. Wilson
"It is a glorious achievement to master one's own temper."
*-- Anonymous
"Keep your promises to yourself."
*-- David H. Fink
How to Start Small and End Big?! - By Mohamed Tohami
Attention please!
In this issue I am going to share with you one of the top
secrets to maximum achievement.
Today is your last day of procrastination.
Today is your day of action.
Today is your day that leads to your bright future.
Are you excited?!
This secret has changed my life.
It transformed me from a big procrastinator to a man of action.
And my actions led to big achievements.
It all started with discovering…
** The law of accumulation
…Which states that short term activities with time will lead to
long term accomplishments.
When I first got to know this great natural law I was shocked of
how easy long term accomplishments can be achieved!
Before I knew this law I was always looking at every task as a
big bulk that should be started and finished in one shot.
But how far truth is from that!
Every great accomplishment started small and with incremental
steps forward it turned into big achievements and massive
success.
All what you need is to start. Start with the smallest possible
action and build upon it.
Action that is as small as a short phone call, or reading one
page in your favorite book.
With consistency and steady movement you will get to your
destination where you will celebrate your massive success.
Start small and end big. This is the secret of greatness.
Now a word of caution!
**You have to be sure that you are moving in the right direction!
“Oh, that is very important!!”, you are saying.
Because you may discover that after taking small actions one
after the other and after some good long time you end up in a
place where you never wanted to be in.
So, before you start you have to know your destination and to be
sure that this is where you want to go, what you want to do and
who you want to be.
Don’t be like those who float with the winds!
Use the power of purpose. Knowing your purpose in life is the
first step in building an extraordinary life and creating
everlasting success.
I couldn’t find illustration of that secret better than that of
Matt Morris the CEO of “The Success University”…
*** “It's the consistent and steady movement in the right
direction that makes the small incremental investments fairly
painless and also creates the confidence and excitement to be
truly self-motivated and driven toward your ultimate goals and
purpose”
Yes! Nothing can be more truthful than that.
So it is all about knowing your purpose and your right
direction, making incremental investments, and being consistent
and steady.
These three unique facets make up the way to a guaranteed
everlasting success and huge achievements.
NOW is a great time to embrace change.
My friend, it’s your time to transform your life from making a
living to making a difference.
Eliminate procrastination.
Start taking action now; small action after the other. A little
bit does make a difference.
You’re running a marathon, and you have to make sure that YOU
WILL END IT BIG.
My friend you can make a difference.
I believe in you.
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Mohamed Tohami (http://www.tohami.com) is a success mentor
helping thousands of people worldwide to live a purposeful life
and achieve their goals.
Saturday, October 28, 2006
Motivation By Daily Momentum - By John Watson
Do you ever find that you do not carry out your plans? If not, perhaps your plans are too complicated. If you follow a simple plan every single day great things can be achieved.
Years ago, I tried lifting weights in an attempt to develop a magnificent physique like that of my hero - Tarzan of the Apes. I did not succeed!
A big stumbling block was the advice in the magazines to train on only 3 days a week with a rest day in between. This was probably good advice from a physical point of view but psychologically it ignored the power of daily momentum.
If you practice something every single day, you develop a feeling of drive and power i.e. momentum. Your self-confidence grows like Jack's famous bean stalk. You feel that you, too, are climbing swiftly, or at least steadily, towards your goal and the giant's huge treasure chest. You are highly motivated.
But if you take a rest day even if it is well earned, you give yourself an excuse to take another rest day. Your action plan becomes blurred and lacks clarity. You lose momentum and have to start up all over again.
Doing something every single day has a powerful simplicity about it.
When the Japanese runner, Seko, won the Boston Marathon in 1981, he was asked about his training methods. He explained his method in twelve words.
“I run 10 kilometers in the morning and 20 in the evening.”
This double action a day plan enabled him to outrun the world’s most gifted runners. When Seko was told that his plan seemed too simple, compared to that of other marathoners, he replied:
“The plan is simple, but I do it every single day, 365 days a year”.
Simple? Yes. Easy? No Most people fail to reach their goals not because their plans are too simple or too complicated. They fail because they do not follow their own plans. All plans are useless if they are not followed.
Seko’s plan was effective not because it was simple but because he followed it 'every single day'.
Albert Einstein summed up the importance of continuous movement in his own imaginative way:
"Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving."
There were no bicycles available in medieval times but they could teach us a thing or two about momentum.
According to the famous legend, King Arthur's knights of the Round Table followed one dominant idea - the love of God, humans and noble deeds. The King expected his knights to perform one noble deed a day before the evening banquet.
This noble deed expressed their love of God and humanity. Fictitious or not, the King, or his creators, knew the power of daily achievement and momentum.
After achieving at least one noble deed a day, the knights could enjoy their roast venison and goblet of wine with a great sense of satisfaction and achievement.
A year or so ago, I wrote one article a day for about three months. This gave me a daily feeling of achievement and success. I am not sure if my readers felt the articles were a success but the feeling of daily momentum helped me to continue the practice for some time.
Movement creates more movement. Take one step and you will take another.
Once a habit is formed you may no longer need to keep up daily activity. My habit of writing articles is now so deeply ingrained that I can no longer stop myself writing articles!
When in need of advice, I write an article to myself and anybody else who might find the ideas helpful!
Probably I would have done better to continue writing a daily article but if you or I cannot make daily progress, we can at least make weekly progress.
In reality, you don't have time to form all the habits or develop all the skills you want to by doing them all every single day. Momentum can still be maintained at a lower level even without daily activity.
Regular weekly or monthly action will be time enough to make progress on the skills or activities which are not your main ones or which become less important as you move on to new interests.
If you are learning a martial art, you might not have time to attend a class every day, but you can attend at least once or twice a week. If you do, you will make progress. I see the evidence for this on a regular basis with my own martial arts students.
Those who attend classes twice a week usually reach black belt before those who attend once a week and those who attend sporadically can take as long as seven or eight years to reach their first black belt even though some of them are very talented. They may just be too busy or may find regular training too boring.
So then, try to work on your main goals every single day but, if you cannot manage that, work on them once every other day or once a week or even once a month. You will still make enough progress to keep you motivated.
If you don't keep moving in the direction you want to go, you will get easily depressed and feel like a failure. If you take action daily and move steadily toward your goal, you will find it hard to stay defeated and depressed.
Daily, focused action and momentum are signs of life and success. The failure to take daily action can lead only to stagnation and frustration. The only thing that can go from one part of the world to another without moving is the road.
Daily action leads to momentum - the power of continuous movement. Once you have started moving and kept it going for a while it will become easier and easier to continue along your chosen path.
If you keep starting and then stopping, the path becomes tougher and tougher. Starting is usually the most difficult task. Getting out of your favorite chair is tough but, once you're up, walking is comparatively easy. If you get back into your chair you need to use an extra burst of energy to get up again.
If you start a task and then stop, you have to gather your thoughts and any necessary materials together before you can start again.
Robin Hood, Prince of Thieves in 1991 made more profits than any other film in the world. Why? Because Robin is a man of action who is involved in daily action in pursuit of his goals. People instinctively love someone who takes regular action.
In a spoof, role reversal TV series called 'Maid Marian and Her Merry Men', Robin is spending time worrying about what he should wear. He comments:
"I wouldn't be seen dead in this."
Maid Marian immediately rebukes him for his lack of speedy action:
"You will be seen dead in this in approximately two seconds time if you don't get moving!"
We all need to start moving and keep moving. Tarzan hardly ever wasted time speaking unless he was with Jane and even then he was a man of few words. He seldom stood still. Instead, he just grabbed the nearest vine and was off swinging through the jungle - not a bad role model!
Tarzan did not, of course, carry a notepad and biro with him. However, we can.
A list of what we plan to do is worth carrying with us at all times. It can be a powerful tool in our attempt to maintain both motivation and momentum.
Just writing or typing what you plan to do today can make it far more likely that you will do it. I tried this today and immediately did two things I had been putting off for a long time.
Remember too that a simple plan acted on daily is far superior to a complicated plan which is never carried out.
John Watson's main motivational ebook can be found at http://www.motivationtoday.com/36_laws.php
The sales page alone is highly motivating!
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Friday, October 27, 2006
The Power Of Focus - By Steve Peters
As far as I am concerned, nothing could be farther from the truth. If you are trying to learn to multitask, I beg you to STOP now ! Multitasking is a sham. A con. It gives the illusion of efficiency and mastery. In reality it is inefficient and tedious.
Did Henry Ford make each worker assemble a car each ? No, they each did one task. He said that anything can be done if you can only break it down into small enough pieces. Motivating yourself requires that you break tasks into smaller groups.
Smaller tasks seem less daunting and you can really feel confident about completing them. If you focus on one task at a time you will get to you goal with the worries and concerns of only ONE goal at the time. If you multitask you increase geometrically both the complexity of the task, and the chance that you will make a mistake.
Focus is really taking things one step at a time. The more you learn to hone in on the most important tasks the more efficient you focus will be. Keep closing in. Take things one step at a time, and you will find that your slow and frustrating approach to tasks brings success far quicker than multitasking.
Multitasking should be left for mundane basic tasks that have been repeated so many times that they have become automatic. By its very definition, focus is narrow and precise, and it these qualities that give you the power to achieve again and again whilst your multitasking colleagues are left giving piecemeal quality work riddled with mistakes !
Hypnotist Paul MacKenna tells of when he was learning to drive on a race track. He soon learnt that skidding can be fatal. He discovered that focus was the key to increasing your chances of avoiding a crash. New drivers are taught that it is what they focus on in a spin that matter. Most people will focus on the wall they are trying to avoid. Yet hey often end up crashing into the wall they wished to avoid. Instead of concentrating on the negative, to break out of the spin they should concentrate on where they want to go.
The human mind, for whatever reason, gravitates to whatever you think about. It doesn’t understand the concept of negatives. In other words if you think I don’t want to eat about chocolate, you mind will not process the negative commands, it will merely go after the object thought of, in this case chocolate.
Knowing this, I always try to focus on positive aspects of things. Faced with a problem I think of the solution, not what I need to stop doing. EG - I’m am eating more fruit and vegetables rather than I shouldn’t eat chocolate.
Remember the perculiar nature of focus the next time you are trying to solve a problem…
www.stevesgoal.com The Controversial Blog About Self Improvment.
Thursday, October 26, 2006
Whether You Think You Can
*-- Henry Ford
"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and
endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a
success unexpected in common hours...If you have built castles in the
air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now
put foundations under them."
*-- Henry David Thoreau
"Resolve to be thyself...he who finds himself loses his misery!"
*-- Mathew Arnold
The Keys To Leveraging Any Motivation System - By Steve Peters
What do you want out of life ? What do you not want ? Most of us would like to be more toned, yet can't motivate ourselves to go to the gym. Many of us would like to start a business , but never get around to working out a realistic plan. Without the ability to self motivate we are at the mercy of our whims and emotional states, as well as external circumstances. How can we achieve things in our lives if we feel unmotivated ?
Motivating yourself can be really difficult, even with the smallest of things. Somedays, struggling to motivate yourself just to get out of bed on a cold morning can seem impossible. If such a small task can prove such a struggle then its no wonder that bigger goals can seem completely unrealistic. I can understand why people view goal motivation in those terms but it simply isn't true.
I will let you in on a secret, a goal only motivates you in proportion to the rewards it brings. If I tell you there is a cup of coffee waiting for you when you get up it might. Realistically though, it won't, your used to it and it isnt enough of an incentive to actually care about. The controlling factors in this situation are a mundane and low value reward coupled with a short term view point.
However,if I told you that getting up half an hour earlier could earn you an extra $100 that day or week, I bet that you would be a lot more keen. Or if I said, get up half an hour earlier for a week, after that you can do what you want and then you could get up whatever time you wanted and it would turn your finances around, you would be jumping out of bed. Am I right ?
You see, perception of time is very important. A short term view of the effects of your actions will limit your ability to self motivate. However a long term view of life changes will seem unworkable and you will be put off. If someone told you that you could never eat (insert your favourite food here) again you would instantly dismiss it as unworkable. However, if someone said you will lose ten pounds if you avoid that food for thirty days you would be much more willing to try.
In trying to motivate ourselves we should consider these three key elements:
A sufficient reward that will result from taking the action
A long term view of the consequences of taking / not taking the action required
A short term view of implimenting the changes
If you use these three rules of motivation and apply them to your particular circumstance. Motivation is a very complex topic, but without recognising these factors, I don't feel you will be able to leverage any motivation method to its fullest potential.
However there are other factors that can override the other three primary motivators. A fear of failure or success, sometimes known as perfectionism, means that we are unwilling to tackle a task because the ramifications of not doing it well seem too big. We don't want to even attempt it because it seems too big to tackle, too complex, too hard.
The secondary, limiting factors of task complexity and task importance are harder to get over and frustrate many people. Regarding the size and complexity of a task I can only offer this advice, break the task down to the smallest components possible and then focus only on the first task and give it your all.
The limiting nature of perfectionism or fear of consequences is harder to overcome. For this I can recommend two things. Firstly, start a task slowly, this will allow you to get used to the actual act of tackling the task. Secondly, someone once said, if a things worth doing, its worth doing badly. Often, the consequence of not doing a task are far greater than doing it poorly.
However, in our minds, not doing a task, means that there is still chance we could do it perfectly in the future. Often, we are just deluding ourselves. If you feel worried about how well you will perfom, you should put all thoughts aside and start the task immediately. No matter how long you procrastinate you will not perfom significantly better, at least not enough to make a worthwhile difference. You will gain far more by completing the task at what ever level of quality you can and then looking back and learning lessons for the future.
Try to keep the three keys and the limiting factors in mind the next time you need to motivate yourself.
Written by Steve Peters, the controvesial success blogger: www.stevesgoal.com
Wednesday, October 25, 2006
The Greatest Gift
give yourself comes from helping someone else."
*-- Norma Kamali
"To pursue success effectively, you must build supportive relationships
that will help you work toward your goals."
*-- Stedman Graham
"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I
don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world
are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want,
and, if they can't find them, make them."
*-- George Bernard Shaw, "Mrs. Warren's Profession," 1893
Don't Be Afraid To Take Risks - By Suzanne Schwartzberg
Children, especially in America, are pressured since the age of 4 or 5 to decide what they will do with themselves when they are 21 or 22. We spend our young days playing house or dressing up as a policeman or as a teacher. And suddenly that day arrives when we are no longer playing house or playing doctor (although we did bring back those games in college), but we are forced to actually pay bills, find an apartment and become a young professional.
Most college students would say this day arrives way too quickly. I certainly did. I picked my major based on my highest grades, friendliest people, and the most engaging presentation. I did not take classes that I felt might negatively affect my GPA or those that were outside of my comfort level.
When people asked what I was planning to do with my English major the answered spanned from becoming a journalist (Freshman year), becoming an elementary school teacher (Sophomore year), becoming a travel book writer (after my Junior year semester abroad), or going into public relations (Senior year). Each year I tried out these careers by writing for the school newspaper, by volunteering with children, or by interning at a Public Relations Firm. Every time I experimented with a career, I always yearned for the passion I had heard about. The passion that woke you up at 6 am to go to work, and especially the satisfaction/fulfillment at night when you recapped your day as you crawled into bed.
But, I spent four years of college not finding it. Therefore, upon graduation as everyone discussed what now? I figured I'd go with my most recent public relation career plan even though I did not enjoy my internship. I went on many interviews in the city and never received a job offer. So I asked myself why? The reason was the interviewer could tell I was not really interested in their company or in the position (I never was a good liar). And yes, I could eventually have gotten a job in public relations and taking the route I had spent four years preparing for. But I did not want to do something just because it was predictable or comfortable.
So I did something very out of my character. I took a major risk. I packed my bags and moved from NY to Miami Beach, Florida. Yes, I had suffered blizzards long enough! All my friends thought I was crazy to be moving to retired land so soon. My parents of course concerned for my financial well being, did not like my leaving with no solid job offer or career plan in site.
I moved in with a relative that lived two hours north of Miami gave myself two motivating days at the beach, and woke up everyday to drive all the way to Miami and back, I researched what the top industries were in Florida, and of course came across tourism and hospitality. I went from door to door (or in this case hotel to hotel) with my resume, in the hopes someone would not throw it at the bottom of their pile. I researched what the top industries were in Florida, and of course came across tourism and hospitality. Then, just as Miami was heating up as the sun went down, I had to leave to drive the two hours back, although all I wanted to do was stay put. I was offered a few positions and eventually accepted one at a Marriott oceanfront hotel.
Things were not easy at first. I missed my college friends like crazy and found that it is not as easy to meet people in the “real world”. My hours were very different than my other fellow graduates, and I would wander the beach calling everyone in my cell phone book. They would call me after 5pm, and I would be working. I had to stay with friend of my siblings that lived down here sleeping on their couches and not having a place to my own for two months. And now, I am an assistant while friends of mine that majored in hospitality are assistant managers. But I will get there eventually. And I am not the only one.
A friend of mine spent all four years of college studying accounting. I spent many year of college trying to persuade myself to major in business, as well, because it was the “smart choice” instead of the interesting choice that my English major was. Everyone from my parents to my older siblings to my floormates told me so. After one year of working at a very prestigious accounting firm and hating the Monday through Friday rat race with a passion, she decided to move to England (where we had studied abroad together) to start graduate school there for journalism. She has never been happier and I have never admired her as much.
After working at the front desk for eight months, I was promoted to the sales department and am working toward being an event manager. I never dreamed that one could get paid to help plan events, make people happier on their vacations, and to glance out at the ocean. Of course working in a hotel is a lot more than that, but I would not be living in south beach or be working in such a beautiful hotel if I had not taken a chance.
Do not feel that you have to have your whole life figured out at 21. I have heard a statistic that people change their careers at an average of seven times in their lifetimes. Now I don't know how true this statistic is, but I myself have changed my mind four times and I am only 24. Do not allow yourself to believe that just because you can no longer go out every night of the week or sleep till noon that your life is set in stone. Your spontaneous days are far from over. Feel free to change your major, transfer schools, take that class you think will never help you in the real world, apply for those jobs you think you aren't qualified for or ones that can't really exist (my favorite was the chocolate promoter/tester). You never know it may just be the one that gives you the life you have always dreamed.
After spending four years studying in snowy upstate NY, Suzanne decided to change her path and move closer to the sun. After graduating she changed career fields and restarted in Miami Beach, Florida. She currently enjoys working in a hotel, playing host to her college roomates, and going to the beach in her spare time.
Tuesday, October 24, 2006
I'm Luckier
*-- Dr. Denton Cooley
"It is enough that I am of value to somebody today."
*-- Hugh Prather
"When we accept tough jobs as a challenge to our ability and wade
into them with joy and enthusiasm, miracles can happen."
*-- Arland Gilbert
Find Your Mojo - By Katherine G. MacRae
Three out of four people have lost their Mojo. Could you be one of them?
While the word ‘Mojo’ may conjure up all different kinds of definitions, the most common definition I came across searching ‘Mojo’ online was ‘magic charm or magical powers’. Of course right above that definition was an offer of ‘Liquid Mojo Testosterone Libido Enhancer’ that was on sale. Obviously the term ‘Mojo’ does mean different things to different people, and the late singer Jim Morrison may have had something to do with this.
In my mind when I hear the word ‘Mojo’ I think of get up and go, moxie, aliveness, bold courage etc., and the lack of Mojo to be just the opposite.
Three out of four people with no Mojo is an alarming statistic to me, one that I came across while reading the book ‘On Fire – The Art of Personal Consistency’ by Mike Lipkin. Even more so alarming when I wondered for a brief moment; if I too had lost my own Mojo?
Where did it go? Was it taking a vacation or gone forever? Is that why it has taken so long for me to write another article? Has my creativity and consistency gone missing with my Mojo? Could it be due to my change in diet, eating a different brand of cheezies?
I pondered these questions briefly before coming to the conclusion that I was too tired to think about where my Mojo had gone, and it was likely just taking a nap somewhere.
So back to you, and your Mojo. Do you still have it or has it gone missing with the others that are lost?
These are some reasons why I think people lose their Mojo:
• Getting caught up in endless to-do lists and the ever-increasing demands on one’s time can give one an out of control feeling that leads to anxiety, stress and a run down physical feeling
• Lack of regular uninterrupted deep sleep, and restful quiet time
• Too much focus on bad news media
• Lack of a nutritious diet and regular exercise
• Taking yourself too seriously too often, without regular playtime
• Too much time spent in the company of negative people
• Focusing on what is missing instead of the abundance all around you
You need your Mojo. It’s a good thing. The world needs your Mojo. Mojo good. No Mojo bad.
So what can you do to get your Mojo back? Here are some ideas to consider:
• Make time to do what you love, learn something new of interest to you
• Learn how to dance or just dance anyway like no one is watching
• Spend time in nature
• Develop natural curiosity to the world around you
• Exercise your brain and your body
• Spend time with people and in places that inspire you
• Challenge yourself to accomplish something of great significance to you
• Turn off the noise, and give your mind time to rest in free flow thought
Life is more fun when you’ve got your Mojo working, you feel more alive and you have a lot more to offer the world.
People with Mojo are just more interesting than Mojo-less people, that is to say that at least I find myself much more interesting when my Mojo is working than when it’s gone missing.
Now that I’m thinking about it, I’ll start looking for my missing Mojo to wake it up from its nap, and if you’ve become a No-Mojo statistic I hope this article helps you find your Mojo to get it working again too.
Katherine G. MacRae
http://www.SuccessBiz.ca
Monday, October 23, 2006
Color Outside the Lines - By Cynthia Wiles
When we get stuck and all the old ways just don’t fix it anymore, it’s time to ‘color outside the lines’. This means trying something new. A new hairstyle, a new place to jog, anything brand new. We have to change our approach to life, something is not working.
One method that always works is to show an active faith by getting ready for change.
Change can be scary, change can feel so uncertain, so choppy and as though there is no rhythm to our lives. Well that’s exactly what we need, to change the pace and the old rhythm.
There are so many ways to achieve this. I have found the very best way for myself and so many clients and friends is to simply start making room for change by discarding the old.
As we start making room for change by cleaning out closets of old, unused clothing and shoes, as we sort through mountains of dusty paperwork, we are changing far more than out physical surroundings. We are creating order out of chaos. We attract harmony when our surroundings are harmonious. We are cleaning the outward and it soon manifests in the inward. We are actively doing something to show God we are ready for this. We are not sitting in the dark whining, we are not waiting for a magic lamp to drop out of the sky and make it all better for us. We are showing an active, rather than a passive faith. Life has seasons just as the earth has. We often await the right season to sow seeds and later we reap the harvest. Start sowing the seeds of your own good now.
We then need to look carefully at the people in our lives. When we notice that spending an afternoon with Diane always leaves us depressed and unhappy we make a choice to see less of Diane. We are honoring and nurturing ourselves. We still love Diane and pray for her however we do not allow her negativity to affect us.
When we notice the one we love has pulled away, we can choose to panic and spend our waking moments in fear. We can choose to attack them with words and accusations born of fear and desperation. We can make ourselves miserable and sick by doing and saying hurtful things. Or we can choose to love them, accept that they may have things in their lives that are taking prominence for the moment. We can push aside our ego and allow them the freedom of leaving and of coming back. We can also decide that the pain of this relationship is too much we do not feel loved and honored. Then quietly, calmly, detach ourselves from the relationship and allow change to come to it. Anything we hold onto tightly, greedily, fearfully, is choked. Anything we choke, suffocates and dies.
Sunday, October 22, 2006
Writing Cards of Encouragement With Powerful Emotion - By Matthew Robert Payne
You don’t need to be a poet to write poetry. Much poetry does not even rhyme. Some of my best poems did not rhyme. A card is much space so you only want a stanza of four lines or two stanzas of four lines. I met a lady who was a lovely Catholic woman four weeks ago and she told me she was shopping for her brother for a present. I was able to give her an extra two dollars for her gift and I was able to write the card for her brother. It was a picture of a butterfly. The card went
There is nothing like a butterfly
To share its color and beauty for a season
But they say that they only live a month
Not much time to watch them and love them
But you my brother
Spread your color and your warmth
And instead of merely a month
I have you for the rest of your life
God bless you
All it takes is a little bit of thought and a bit of inspiration. There is nothing like a fresh idea out of your mind. Go to a card shop and get a picture that you like for the person and then sit down and write the words. A picture of whale breaching the water could read to your father like this.
Oh how the water crashes
When a whale breaches in laughter
How the grace of the whale just exudes strength
And power over the elements
So too you have been my rod and my staff
That gentle mix between correction and motivation
Oh yeah I have breached and put on a show for you dad
I hope in many more breaches I will make you proud.
It does not have to be the work of a rocket scientist. We all judge ourselves by what our English teachers judged us in the third grade. Well let me tell you I can’t spell, my grammar is shocking and to post to this site I need a proofreader and we still don’t get all the errors out. English was my favourite subject and I failed it and so who am I to write this article?
Here’s a card for your father, you, pick a picture of a forest with trees.
You know they say some of these trees grow for hundreds of years
And boy they get big and strong
They must be so hard to cut down with an axe
And the sap must smell so good with newly cut wood.
It reminds me of you with all the years of wisdom
And how your wisdom flows through you
In all my years I have come to acknowledge your strength and beauty
And the inner strength you have is like a sweet fragrance.
You could go on and on.
In the first stanza paint a picture in words of what you see in the card
In the second stanza get the words of the first stanza and compare them to attributes of the person you are writing to.
It is simple.
Here is one for your lover.
It’s not the sunlight in the morning that rises that brings me joy
It’s not the sip of my first coffee just the way I like it.
It’s not the fresh blast of a hot shower massaging my sleepy body
It’s the thought of you, my first thought every morning that makes me smile
I look at you across the table from me
It’s not your nakedness under those fancy clothes that I think about
It’s the way that smile plays around the corner of your mouth.
When you know I am wrong and you know you are right.
Here is one for your brother in his time of struggle.
I laughed and fought with you when I was a child
That’s what brothers do with each other
Now I look on as your come through mountains that could overwhelm you
And my whole life is full of admiration for you
You know I have been a man of few words
Yet I am quick with a dirty joke or to make you smile
I just want to tell you that even though I can’t help you in your pain
I am praying for you brother and praying you’ll be right again.
It’s easy, all you need to do is write from the heart. If you get a picture card like I suggested try and make the first stanza about the picture and the second about the person. There are hundreds of “bought” cards out there, but not many handwritten lyrics on cards.
Why you can even write to me and I’ll write you one, but you won’t need to do that. All you’ve got to do is speak the truth from your heart. Every dad could do with one like this.
You know dad when I grew up I took you for granted
I thought seeing as you had me you owed me a living
And now since I have been working for a living,
Paying rent, tax and bills, there seems so little left over for treats
And now I know why you were short on money
And now I know why you were so kind to go without the best
So I could wear the latest trends
And why you went without
So I could go looking good
I want you to know my father I appreciate you
And I am so very happy for your example
Here is a thousand kisses
I hope this card makes you glad.
You just can’t miss if you are speaking from the heart. All you need do is find a nice picture and get out a sheet of paper and practice. Line after line. One line at a time and scribble out pieces and bits here and there until you are happy. I know if my father got that card above that it would bring a tear to his eye. In fact I am going to go down and buy a card today and write it out for him.
People in this world carry so many burdens. There is so much hurt and unforgiveness. One card can say a multitude of things and can repair years of pain. Every soldier of war must have missed his wife’s embrace, but it was the letters that kept the flame alive. Why don’t you ignite a heart with a card this week?
There are heaps of people you can write to you know. You could write this to a friend and take them out for coffee.
I have seen a lion with her baby cubs
I have seen a dolphin with its young
I have seen the sun come up with my lover
And I have seen the sun set in the hands of my husband.
I have seen my mother’s joy at my good news
I have seen my boss’ excitement when I accepted a promotion
But one thing I know shines way above all of this
It’s seeing you read this card and knowing that I love you
And no one in my life could take the place of you
My devoted and precious friend
Enjoy the coffee, it’s my shout today!
I could write a hundred for you but I have only written a few in this article. These are just examples, templates as it were, things for you to look at and contemplate. Perhaps you can use them as ideas and write your own cards around my ideas. The important thing is that you write some cards.
Flowers last only a few weeks but a good handwritten card can last years and years. If you become good at it, soon people will be wanting your cards more than money being spent on them. Now wouldn’t that be encouraging?
So get to it.
Write something positive to someone you love today!
I dare you!
Matthew shares his faith in Sydney Australia, he speaks, and he writes prophecies for people that visit his web-site and request a prophecy at http://www.personal-prophecies-free.net If you have a loved one and you are struggling to write a card, perhaps you can give him some details of the loved one and Matthew can write one for you via email.
Motivation By Feeling Smug - By John Watson
Most people feel ashamed about being smug but I think smugness has its uses as one type of motivation.
Christmas provides a great opportunity for feeling smug. If you can get your Christmas cards sent out early in December you can deservedly feel smug. I have never yet managed this but I will give it a try this year!
One dictionary defines 'smug' as 'excessively self-satisfied' or 'complacent'. Another describes 'smug' as 'being irritatingly pleased with oneself'.
Smugness is generally thought of to be a bad thing. It can close your mind to new ideas and alienate everyone around you.
However, smugness is not all bad. I think feeling smug, provided the feeling is kept to oneself, can be an effective motivator.
We easily forget how weak and uninspired we feel when we do not stick to our plans for exercise or diet or anything else.
We also forget how energetic, self-satisfied and even smug we feel when we carry out our plans or at least make an all out effort to achieve them.
However, we can make effective use of both of these negative and positive feelings if we make a point of remembering them vividly and using them to motivate ourselves.
Most self-improvement writers do not recommend dwelling on the unpleasant memories which accompany failure because we tend to become obsessed by them and end up programming our subconscious with thoughts which will attract failure and feelings of incompetence.
But, we all have an ingrained wish to flee pain and embrace pleasure. Dwelling on a vivid memory of the pain of failure can motivate us to take the necessary action that will make such failure unlikely.
Recently, I heard someone mention how he had been ripped off by a roofer. When he realised he had been conned, he felt 'horrible'. But he also expressed the benefit of remembering this feeling:
"I will never be conned again."
I, too, have been conned massively once and, in a less devastating manner, twice. The feeling of being a complete idiot is not a pleasant one, although it is one I have experienced quite frequently! But I don't think I will be conned in the same ways again.
A few days ago, two of my neighbours drove through France on the way to Spain. Their car broke down en route and they hired another one. While they were sunning themselves on the beach in Spain,
their hired car, containing their clothes, passports and money, was stolen.
They were left on the beach with nothing but their swimsuits and beach towels. The feelings they experienced will probably stay with them for life but will also help them avoid a similar situation in
the future!
The memory of feeling good or smug after you have done your best or have achieved your goal is also worth remembering. It will motivate you to repeat the performance.
On October 7th 2006, Scotland beat France 1-0 in the qualifying rounds for the European Cup of 2008. I was surprised by the comments of one Scottish player who said:
"I was not pleased by the win so much as the fact that we did ourbest and everyone played for each other."
Winning is not necessary for feelings of pleasure and satisfaction. Doing your best is enough. Helping others is enough. Of course, winning is an extra bonus. The memory of a glorious victory in the
past will encourage even more effort in the future.
The memory of feeling self-satisfied can be used on a daily basis to help us to stop procrastinating and get on with whatever we should be doing.
I feel smug when I conquer my laziness and tiredness and go for a walk as planned. I also remember the niggling dissatisfaction which can plague me for an entire day when I do not make the effort to
get out into the fresh air and walk.
Another way to use your memory to motivate yourself to take action and do something is to remember the benefits of taking that action even if an immediate feeling of well being does not follow your
first attempts.
The benefits of walking, for example, are enormous even if you just feel tired and ache after your first few walks. For some, the benefits will be obvious immediately. For others, the rewards will show up later.
Remember the following benefits the next time you are hesitating about going for a walk:
Walking burns calories and helps you lose weight
Walking requires no special equipment. Just go out and walk. You would be well advised to put on some walking boots but don't let that put you off!
Walking can help lower blood pressure and prevent heart problems
Brisk walking will give you the benefits of other exercises, such as jogging and cycling, but with less risk of injuries.
Walking at night can help you sleep well
Walking increases the amount of oxygen in your bloodstream
Walking improves your mental performance and your general attitude
Walking helps to boost your immune system
Walking slows the aging process. My granddad loved to walk and was an active gardener, walker and family man well into his old age
Walking makes prayer and meditation easy
Walking allows you to make friends with other regular walkers
Walking gives you the pleasure of meeting a large variety of dogs
Walking allows you to feel smug for the rest of the day!
Just as advertisers can motivate us to buy by listing the benefits of a product and by helping us to imagine these benefits vividly, we can motivate ourselves to take action by imagining the benefits
of taking such action.
Advertisers also tell us how miserable we will feel for the rest of our lives if we do not buy their product. We do not need to go that far but we can remind ourselves that we may well feel miserable for
the rest of the day if we do not take action of some kind.
The dictionary definitions of the word 'smug' suggest that smugness is totally undesirable. However, if feeling smug helps motivate me to take the actions I need to take in order to achieve my goals, I
can live with that! I much prefer 'smug' to 'miserable'! You may feel the same way.
If you do feel the same way, don't be guilty about feeling smug. Enjoy the feeling but keep it to yourself and use it to motivate your best efforts.
I hope you have many days of being able to feel smug!
John Watson is an award winning teacher and 5th degree blackbelt martial arts instructor. He has written several ebooks on motivation and success topics. One of these can be found at http://www.motivationtoday.com/36_laws.php
You can also find motivational ebooks by authors like Stuart Goldsmith. Check out http://www.motivationtoday.com/the_midas_method.php
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Friday, October 20, 2006
Stretching Boundaries - By Truity Williams
Each of us lives life in small selective secure environments, the size dependent upon our experiences, perception of ourselves and our capabilities. Our boundaries are the invisible lines, which produce a sense of inner security. Whenever we are challenged to extend our selves over these invisible lines we naturally interpret the experience as a feeling of fear. Remember the first time you rode a push bike, or got on a buss by you, or went for a job interview. Humans have a natural tendency to be afraid of the unknown. A good example of this is to get on an airplane for the first time, for many these is a terrifying experience.
So why do we give ourselves such a hard time over feeling this way? If fear is a natural state when experiencing something new or unknown, why do we think it a quality to be ashamed of? Stretching our boundaries reminds us that there are millions of experiences out there of which we have no practical experiential knowledge. Vulnerability comes to the fore, of our lack of confidence in an unknown situation often ultimately leaves us shaking and quaking in fear of being thrust into the unknown and our minds throwing in every negative self diminishing thought it can find. However it’s stepping into the unknown which challenges us to think positive, while expanding our experience of our world in turn provoking us to live our lives to the fullest. Everything we do requires we face some form of apprehension or resistance to the growth that is natural. For some people it’s more than for other people, for example one person may be absolutely terrified of riding a horse, and not even want to try, while another person may be afraid but desperately want to have a go. We are all individuals in what we experience. There is a great book that has been out for years called, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” If you have big issues with boundaries and trying new things I suggest you read this book. It will definitely help.
Stretching our boundaries reminds us that there are millions of experiences out there of which we have no practical experiential knowledge. Vulnerability comes to the fore, of our lack of confidence in an unknown situation often ultimately leaves us shaking and quaking in fear of being thrust into the unknown and our minds throwing in every negative self diminishing thought it can find. However it’s stepping into the unknown which challenges us to think positive, while expanding our experience of our world in turn provoking us to live our lives to the fullest. Everything we do requires we face some form of apprehension or resistance to the growth that is natural. For some people it’s more than for other people, for example one person may be absolutely terrified of riding a horse, and not even want to try, while another person may be afraid but desperately want to have a go. We are all individuals in what we experience. There is a great book that has been out for years called, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” If you have big issues with boundaries and trying new things I suggest you read this book. It will definitely help.
Stretching our boundaries isn’t always easy, the main reason is we only know what we know, and humans are creatures of habits. To change life circumstances, to step outside of our comfort square is somewhat unnerving for most people. Generally life has to “toss” us into the deep end in order to expand our perception and develop our skills in life. Its amazing how many people say they just want a quiet life, and there is nothing wrong with that, the thing to remember however is, that if we are not learning, if we are not developing new skills, if we are not living life, we can become bored and in a sense separated from the very essence of spiritual energy, which is experienced through the feelings of “joy – excitement – love – happiness – and well being.” So sometimes, life hands us a huge “toss,” in order to make us get out of complacency.
For some people without the provocation of things appearing to go badly, most would never dare to explore their potential, and the vast dimensions of unexplored possibilities would never be discovered and our spirit would lay dormant, boredom taking over and complacency prevailing bringing with it the experience of ~ sadness – anger – depression – poverty and resentment.
Every human being has a need to grow and expand in conscious awareness, some taking huge steps others small, the size irrelevant, the desire however lies within us all to move towards a better daily life experience.
I believe that most of the experiences I have had in my life time have been in the long term positive, the hardships have provoked me to rise above the limits of education, finances and the fear of standing in my power as a woman who is committed to making a difference. How do you “Choose,” to think upon your life experience?
The only difference between success and failure is that to achieve success you never give up; you keep trying exploring, extending, learning, developing, believing. Where people who experience failure, experience the defeat predominately within their thinking. Just because something didn’t quite work out how you thought it would, does not mean you have failed. “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” “It’s better to have tried than never to have tried at all.” Right at this moment in time you have a choice, you can look for the good that has come out of every situation in your life, or you can focus on the bad. Right at this moment in your life you can A matter of perception: Right at this moment you may not feel abundantly wealthy, but to a child from Africa, your life would appear to be one of immense wealth.
by Truity
Author of Book of Choices published by Amazon =>http://www.truityonline.com free self help website
Thursday, October 19, 2006
If You Fail
*-- Neal Donald Walsch
"We must stop planning, plotting and scheming, and let Infinite
Intelligence solve the problem in its own way."
*-- Florence Shinn
"Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action."
*-- Benjamin Disraeli
From This Point Forward ... - By Corinna Bowers
Often, as we go through our daily routines, we forget how wonderful life can be. You know how it is…you're so busy and involved in the little things that it's hard to step back and look at the big picture. And when we're stuck in the daily routine, we forget that life is what we make it.
The big picture is, no matter where you are in life, that you truly have the ability to make choices that will change your life. That's right. Change it quickly, change it forever, and change it for the better.
All of us come into adulthood with our own set of baggage. Some of us carry around more than others. But no matter what your past, you can choose to make things different from this point forward.
Just think, from now on you can implement a plan that will point you in the direction you want to go. You can choose to run your life instead of letting your life run you. You can be proud to actually create the future that you want. You can set about accomplishing goals that have long been on the back burner or forgotten all together.
This might mean that you make choices that seemed alien to you a few years ago. This might mean that you have to prepare to be a little more vulnerable. This might mean that you'll need more support in your life. And this most certainly means that you will start looking at life with a different perspective.
From this point forward, you can choose to better manage your reactions, feelings, and behaviors.
From this point forward, you can choose to let go of some of your baggage.
From this point forward, you can choose to change the story of your life from a horror/mystery/drama story to an adventure story.
From this point forward, you can choose how you will treat others.
From this point forward, you can strive to be the best person you can be.
And while things aren't always going to go your way, you can certainly choose to handle disappointment and failure appropriately. Focusing on the choices you have from this point forward won't prevent you from feeling frustrated and let down, but it will empower you to be accountable for your choices and to learn from your mistakes.
Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, gave an amazingly inspirational Commencement Addressto the 2005 graduating class of Stanford University. It is funny, poignant, and full of life lessons learned. The message is applicable for all of us, and I believe is a great reminder to live life fully…from this point forward!
Corinna Bowers is a personal life coach who helps her clients move their lives forward with a purpose! Check out her life coaching website to learn more about communication, self care, and moms' issues.
Wednesday, October 18, 2006
Who Sold You on That Plan
*--Jim Rohn
"There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain
of improving, and that's your own self."
*-- Aldous Huxley (1864-1963) English Novelist
"If you would be rich, you will be rich; if you would be good, you will be good; if you would be learned, you will be learned. But wish for one thing exclusively, and don't at the same time wish for a hundred other incompatible things just as strongly."
*-- William James
Personal Development Plan - By Kevin Christopher
While most people realize that personal development is a positive step in improving
one’s life, some people may have difficulty in finding ways to accomplish it. This is
where a personal development plan is important. A personal development plan will help
you map out areas in which improvement is desired or necessary. A personal
development plan will also outline short and long term goals that are realistic. A personal
development plan will also identify the means to accomplish the changes that you want to
make in your life. Finally a personal development plan will document the steps you
make on the way so you can continually evaluate the progress that is made.
A personal development plan starts out with identifying the areas in which you want to
improve. Start out by making a list of the areas in your life where you have difficulty.
Then, order those areas so that you have the issue that is most pressing or needs the most
improvement so you can work on that first. It is not necessary to use a personal
development plan as a way to fix everything in your life all at once. Instead, you can
concentrate on one item at a time. This is a more manageable way to affect change in
your life and you will be able to see the results more quickly.
After you have identified the area in which you want to concentrate in your personal
development plan, think about goals that you want to accomplish. It is often easy to
come up with a grand scheme goal that will fix whatever it is you want to improve on.
However, those are generally long term goals. Once the long term goal is identified, try
coming up with smaller, short term goals. The benefit of this is that you will be able to
accomplish tasks in a shorter time period and see changes for the better. This will lead to
a sense of accomplishment and you will feel more motivated to continue.
For example, if you want to create a personal development plan for losing weight, you
may want to make several short term goals. Your long term goal may be that you want to
lose fifty pounds. Start out with short term goals such as exercising at least three times
per week for a half an hour each. Another short term goal can be to cut out or reduce
particular foods from your diet. After each short term goal is accomplished, you can
move on to another short term goal such as exercising five times per week, increasing the
duration, increasing weight training or changing your diet further.
After a goal is accomplished, rewards are a great motivation. Reward yourself positively
for sticking to your personal development plan goals. You can buy a new outfit or treat
yourself to a spa day since you will feel better about yourself. Be careful, though, not to
reward negatively in ways that will work against your personal development plan. For
example, in the weight scenario, do not reward yourself with a chocolate cake. This
could cause you to backslide.
Identify a means of support in your personal development plan. You can contact your
physician, seek counseling, identify support groups geared toward your particular issue or
read books. It is not easy to change without help so don’t try. Get the support you need.
Use your personal development plan to document the changes that are being made and
the progress you are making. This will help you continually evaluate your personal
development plan and allow you to revise it from time to time if necessary.
Kevin Christopher is the creator of Time-Success-Freedom. Your online source for personal development and motivational tips and ideas. For access to personal development and motivational courses online visit Success University to continue your learning and development.
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
Poorly Developed Sense of Fear
and no concept of the odds against them. They make the impossible
happen."
*-- Dr. Robert Jarvik
"It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good, too, to make sure you haven't lost the things that money can't buy."
*-- George Horace Lorimer
"Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil."
*-- James Allen
Self Esteem Means Feeling Good Inside: How To Feel Good Inside - By Karl Perera
Self Esteem is what we experience when we feel good about ourselves and when we feel good inside. What makes you feel good inside?
I think when you feel you like what you are doing, where you are going and feel you have your priorities right. Feeling good means being satisfied with what you have, with what you are doing and where you are going. Next month we will look at how ambition can help or hinder you in your search for self esteem. Let's continue with this article's theme......
Don't make the common mistake of comparing your achievements to someone else or to what you believe you should have done up to this point. You will NEVER measure up and you will bring yourself down. LOW SELF ESTEEM.
What you need to feel good inside is within your power. It is not the result but the route to achievement. You will have high self esteem when you have a sense of direction, satisfaction about your choices and actions and know that you are doing your best and doing something good.
- Do your best and you will respect yourself for it. If you don't you will know. You can cheat others but not yourself.
- Be honest and kind to others. Give yourself NO chance to be self critical.
- For most people doing good things brings satisfaction and a good feeling inside. If you have done something wrong and feel guilty about it your self esteem will suffer. Try to help others. Spend time with your kids, listen to others, call someone - be nice! Your self opinion will go up and you will feel self respect. The bonus is that others will be grateful to you and this will also boost your self esteem!
- Focus your thoughts on what is right in your life and on what you like. How can you make things better? Don't neglect ever what you want from life. Some sacrifice is necessary especially if you have family but you don't have to be a martyr. Self Esteem will only blossom when you decide to love yourself.
- One of the benefits of Self Esteem is confidence in yourself and knowing realistically where you are and where you are going. But careful - don't aim too high. Keep your sights on small improvements and planning to get where you want to be. Each time you have a small success you can feel happy and motivated to continue.
- Give and be generous! Give your time and of yourself. By doing this you will have no guilt when you want to spend time alone or on your own projects. if you organise yourself you CAN make time for yourself and others. You will feel more in balance and will feel you are living your life.
Concentrate on these points and act on them. Next month I will focus on a different aspect of Self Esteem - being happy with what you have (how to manage ambition).
This article was written by Karl Perera author and owner of the website that helps you build your self esteem and confidence - www.more-selfesteem.com. Visit the site for courses, information and advice, tips, many more articles, past newsletters, books and more!
Monday, October 16, 2006
Why I Succeed
26 times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot...and missed.
I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I
succeed."
*-- Michael Jordan - Professional Basketball Player
"Carpe Diem, lads! Seize the day. Make your lives extraordinary!"
*--Dead Poets Society (1989).
"It is often wonderful how putting down on paper a clear
statement of a case helps one to see, not perhaps the way
out, but the way in."
*-- A. C. Benson
Why You Need To Create A Victory Log Now - By Mike Brescia
Even though you don't want to live in the past, this can be an invaluable tool for you. Throughout our lives, every single one of us have had times where we did something great, or at least really good... someone gave us an approving glance, a promotion, a new client. Perhaps we dated someone hot! Wedding day, giving birth, scoring a touchdown, winning a medal. You simply helped someone out that needed it. These events made you feel good.
A very effective way to put yourself into a great mood any time you want, especially at times where exceptional performance is needed NOW, is to create...Your Victory Log. A Victory Log is merely a sheet of paper that you have nearby any time you need to be reminded of past successes of ANY kind. By reminding yourself about your successes, by pulling out that little sheet, you'll often be able to go on and reach down and grab your greatest performance ever even from the depths of despair. Often times, you just need to be able to REMEMBER that you can do it, when your thinking is really cloudy.
If you get depressed, pull out your Victory Log and you'll feel a whole lot better. I absolutely guarantee it. Yes, this is simple. That's why it works. Do you think that the doers - the real winners in life - are that much different than you? Mostly, with exceptional people, they just keep their victories just below their consciousness, so that magical confidence is right there when they need it. So PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do this exercise. Don't put it off. If now isn't good, do it later today. It's easy. It's fun. And you'll feel great about yourself when you're done.
And... you'll have it forever. What a great gift to yourself. Please take a few minutes and do this!!! This silly little sheet of paper can pull you out of the deepest hole faster than anything you've ever seen. Here's how. In the areas listed below we want to create a big list of even the tiniest successes. I often look at my list when I'm feeling not up to a task. Hey, no one can be at their best all the time.
Write down just a few words to jog the memory so that when you look at it, you'll know. Many people type these out afterwards. Go back to as far as you can remember. Even kindergarten is fair game. Learning - tests, quizzes, semester averages, awards, scholarships, I.Q., diploma. Include all grades and college.
Romantic relationships - dated a "hottie," got the glance in the mall, had a particularly romantic night/week/month, had 'em all after you, summer camp, phone call, poems, cards, got whistled at. Go back as far as you need to.
Sports (even backyard sports) - touchdowns, hits, baskets, goals, blocks, double plays, great shots. Include board games and cards, too.
Work - promotions, sales, raises, pats on the back, contests, trips, saved money for the company, teamwork, great days, winning, solving a problem, saving a life, got elected, a finalist for the job, made the big sale, got the listing.
Personal - convinced someone to a new way of thinking, landscaping, painting, art, cleaning the house, new clothes, great dinners, children in plays or sports, losing weight, eliminating a bad habit, building/fixing something, tuning up the car, new car day, new home, getting a letter/notification, made dinner, helped a friend.
Social - kept your temper, you were elegant, gave a great speech, the party was a success.
Health - cholesterol is down, stopped smoking, lost weight, ran 100 yards/one mile/three miles, climbed the mountain, changed your diet, walked by the chips in the store, etc.
Do this for every area of your life. I have one for kicking a 50 yard field goal. Believe me, I'll never forget it. Especially when NFL kickers have missed 30 yarders to lose games! But even the small ones, like walking by the potato chips today... That's a victory and shouldn't be discounted. Because you were strong just then, and deserve recognition. No one else is likely to do it, so you MUST.
Don't think little things are not important. They're everything -- everything. Watch during sporting events, when a player makes a mistake and the other team scores as a result. Momentum shifts. Why? Because after mistakes they begin focusing on what went wrong... instantly. And the team that scored is focused on their scoring. They're pumped up. Confidence rises.
You need that confidence too, to do your best every day and every minute. So focus on what you've done right, and you'll develop it. How can you do this? Your Victory Log... the fastest way in the world to build your confidence and increase your skills. "What does your Victory Log look like?"
WINNING BELIEFS:
-- I keep my Victory Log with me at all times
-- When I look at my Victory Log I feel powerful
-- I have many victories to power my determination
-- My victories give me confidence
-- I have many little victories every day
-- I give myself pats on the back when I do something well
EMPOWERING QUOTE:
"Think of yourself as on the threshold of unparalleled success. A whole clear, glorious life lies before you. Achieve! Achieve!" -Andrew Carnegie
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Sunday, October 15, 2006
Finished It On Paper
*--- Jim Rohn
"Continuous effort--not strength or intelligence--is the key to unlocking our potential."
*-- Winston Churchill
"Don't bother about genius. Don't worry about being clever.
Trust life to hard work, perseverance and determination.
*-- Sir Frederick Treves
It's Your Life, What Are You Doing With It? - By Tim Connor
The only thing in life that is certain is its uncertainty. You can either learn to embrace the unexpected and release the expected, or live with a great deal of frustration, anxiety and stress.
Life for everyone can be either a joyous adventure, or filled with struggle, pain and adversity. Life is a neutral process that does not select some people for success and others for failure, some for happiness and others for loneliness, or some for wealth and others for poverty. Life comes to each of us one day at a time, and we make choices and decisions that create our outcomes and consequences.
Some of these outcomes may at first appear positive, but over time we learn that they had negative lessons. Others at first may seem to be negative, but with the passage of time bring positives that we never could have anticipated.
Many would argue that bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. I would argue first that all of this depends on the definition of bad and good. What can seem to be bad for us (loneliness, for example) can bring us growth, peace and surrender in the end if we can learn to see the good in solitude. What can seem to be good for us (wealth for example) can bring us fear, arrogance and isolation.
One of my basic life premises is that every life has its share of opportunities, struggles, successes and failures, and that, regardless at any given moment what you may be experiencing in your life, it can be either positive or negative depending on:
1- how you feel about it.
2- how it makes you feel about yourself.
3- what you do with it or about it.
It is not my premise that everyone can (or should) experience the same type or degree of anything in life – i.e. happiness, success, fear or ignorance. That is not for me, or any other person, to wish for you or to expect life to take from you. We are each here to learn, grow and experience life – whatever form it takes for each of us – as we move through the days and years of our lives.
This article is not about answers to your needs, questions, struggles or dreams. It is about asking you to think differently or uniquely about whatever life has put in your lap at any given moment (either suddenly or over time) – whether it is perceived as good or bad, and whether it lasts for a fleeting moment or for many years.
In the end, each of us has the power to choose. Even a prisoner or servant can choose what fills his mind and spirit. Being free is not just a physical idea, but also a mental one. There are many people who have the ability to get in their car and drive across the country, but are afraid to leave the safety of their own living room.
This article is about freedom. The freedom to:
· believe
· change
· understand
· let go
· begin again
· enjoy
· accept
· feel
Do you want anything in your life to be different or better than last year or yesterday in any way? Do you want greater success, more peace, less stress, more friends, more financial freedom, more fun, or _________ (add your own)?
What are you going to do different this year than last? Today vs. yesterday?
· Are you going to work harder or smarter?
· Are you going to learn more?
· Are you going to communicate more honestly?
· Are you going to ______ (whatever)?
There is one sure way to guarantee that the dreams in your life will be realized. There is one thing you can do, starting now, to ensure that the mistakes and lessons of last year are used as stepping stones to a better future. There is one action you can take now that will create a year in your life that is filled with happiness, achievement, success and prosperity.
Remember, your are here for a little while, then gone forever!
Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com.
Saturday, October 14, 2006
Most Limitations Are Self-imposed - By Tim Connor
It has been said by many people smarter than I, that “the only limitations we encounter in life are those self-limiting ones we place on ourselves.” If this is true (and at this point I am neither agreeing nor disagreeing with this premise), why then do so few people reach their full potential? Why do so many people feel stuck, out of control and without hope in their lives? Why do so many people give up, quit, settle, resign themselves or operate out of blame, anger, guilt, resentment and self-pity in regards to the quality of their life?
If this question were answered in a book by the same title, it would never sell. Why? Because the very people we are talking about here do not want to take the responsibility for their lives. They insist on pointing a finger toward something or someone else for the cause of their station or circumstances in life.
I have been at the bottom of the barrel a few times in my life. I have also reached the mountaintop. I have met thousands of people who believe they do not have any choices. They are stuck: in a job, business, relationship, way of life, neighborhood, climate or career. You and I are not trees. We can change what we do not like. Then why don’t we?
…fear, comfort, procrastination, wrong motives or reasons, other’s emotional manipulation of us and our acceptance of it.
The truth is – and I didn’t just invent it or discover it – each of us came into this world headed for greatness in some way. We were engineered for success at birth and conditioned for failure along the way. We have forgotten our heritage. We have the most magnificent organ ever created in our skull – a mind that can create whatever it chooses. There is nothing we cannot do. The skeptics out there are thinking, “Sure, Tim. I can fly.”
I do not have the time or the interest to deal with skeptics or critics. If that is their attitude, I will bet they take it into other areas of their life as well. This is not about you or me flying, but realizing we can do whatever we put our minds to, as long as we put action into our dreams. Certainly there are physical limitations in many areas or with some people. My only point here is that we could do more if we would only learn that our ceilings are self-imposed.
What inner mental images are you holding in your consciousness that may be holding you back? Is it the fear of failure or success? Is it the fear of rejection or public scorn? Is it an inner feeling of unworthiness? Or is it some other emotional issue or scar that you have failed to recognize or deal with?
Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com.
Friday, October 13, 2006
Secrets of Being a Genius - By H. Bernard Wechsler
How-to Ace School and Career
What if you could access and retrieve your long-term memories at will?
Would you have a Competitive-Edge and sail through school and your career
in the Fast-Track?
Would students laugh at exams, and executives look forward to presentations for
promotions and raises?
Three Learning-Systems
We humans have five major senses, and three of them teach us everything
we know. Vision, touch and hearing are the key tools of learning. Taste and smell have too small a bandwidth to waste time on unless you are a dog or cat.
The largest brain bandwidth for humans is our sense of sight, which sends 10 million bits of information per second. Our sense of touch, called kinesthetic,
tactile, and haptic sense, produces 1-million bits of information per second.
Finally, our auditory sense produces between half-a-million to 1-million bits
of information per second as perceived by our brain.
Approximately 80% of us are visual learners; we remember mental images
(pictures) of what we read and write. Exams are created for visual learners.
There is a Einsteinian secret of how to remember and recall what we saw and
read. It is stopping to write or dictate into a recorder our own abstract (summary)
of the key points we can mentally visualize.
To ace exams and have people think we are a genius, we have to create a mental-image and associate it with what we want to remember. What does it remind you of?
We have to collect this information in our 3rd-Eye, the site of our Pineal Gland,
and when we want to retrieve and recall information for an exam, look upward to our Eye-Brain Link (3rd-Eye), and call it up by using the name we gave it.
Example: the Battle of Trenton. The Secret of visual information is using our 3rd-Eye as a retrieval tool of long-term memory.
Kinesthetic
About 10% of us are kinesthetic (sense of touch) learners. We have to feel things and work with them rather than seeing picture. These folks make great engineers,
architects, work in laboratories, and write computer programming.
The Einsteinian secret of those who learn best through their sense of touch is to
Twiddle-Their-Thumbs. Let’s be clear, when they want to learn and remember,
they must rotate all four fingers on each hand, back-and-forth across both their
thumbs. It requires between 1-2 minutes to twiddle their thumbs for creating
long-term memory, and the same couple of minutes to retrieve the memories
before an exam. They remember how they felt (emotions) when they originally learned the material, and they use their fingers to access the associated memories.
Kinesthetic learners relax by closing their eyes, inhaling and exhaling three deep diaphragmatic breaths, and using their 3rd-Eye by looking upward, to crack their Eye-Brain Link.
Auditory
Auditory learners create long-term memory by the use of focusing primarily on hearing words in their minds Ear. Their secret Einsteinian strategy is pulling on their left-earlobe simultaneously with remembering.
First they must close their eyes, take three deep breaths from their diaphragm;
inhaling and exhaling increases oxygenation, and helps create mental imagery and associations to summarize for long-term memory.
They must access their 3rd-Eye by looking upward (Eye-Brain Link) to retrieve their long-term memories for exams, and remember to stroke their left earlobe to trigger their Auditory Cortex.
What’s The Story – Jerry?
1. Goal: Read, learn and remember a chapter or a classroom lecture for an
exam or presentation.
2. Now imagine what you just studied was a movie, and summarize it in writing, or dictate what you recall into a recorder by listing the 1-2-3 key ideas. Make sure you give your mental-movie a title to later identify it: example, Battle of Trenton, Macbeth or Supreme Court.
3. Close your eyes, focus your attention upward toward the center of your
eyes. Focus mentally on the middle of your eyebrows.
We call it the 3rd-Eye; it is the camera lens of your mental-movie projector.
By focusing upward with your 3rd-eye, you are connecting with your Eye-Brain link (Optic Nerves), for long-term memory.
4. Now create a Virtual-Realty Mental-Movie or series of photos, of what you just read, studied and learned. Create a mental-image (on the movie-screen of your mind) that reminds you of the major elements of the event.
5. The two key elements of memory are: creating an exaggerated, ridiculous
mental-image, you can associate with what you want to recall.
Example: you want to recall the following: Winning the Battle of Trenton
George Washington crossing the Delaware River, on Christmas Day, 1776,
with his 2200 patriots to attack the Hessians in Trenton, N.J. Mentally picture a Dog named George wearing a 22 on his front of his hat, and 00 on the back, hissing (reminds you of Hessians, the German mercenaries England used to fight the Americans), cutting down a Xmas tree.
They won because of a single strategy: surprise. It was a holiday and the Hessians were sleeping when the Americans did a surprise-attack.
6. Your job is to brief your best friend about what you read, studied and
learned. He or she should see it all in his or her own minds-eye.
7. Answer these six questions to frame your summary:
a) Who are the major characters? (male/female, titles, occupations)
b) What did they do to get in trouble? (the conflict is about what? what
happened?)
c) Where does it take place? (indoor, outdoor, U.S., Europe or Asia).
d) When does it occur? (past, present or future).
e) Why did it happen? (why is it happening? why not?)
f) How did they overcome their problem? How did it happen? How much?
8. In the Exam room, relax and close your eyes for less than one-minute,
look upward to your 3rd-eye (Eye-Brain Link), to review your mental-
movies. To retrieve your mental-movie, silently subvocalize the name of
your mental-movie, The Battle-of Trenton.
In your minds-eye you will see the dog named George, wearing the hat with the number 22 in front and 00 in back, reminding you of Washington’s 2200 soldiers Now see George, the dog, cutting down the Xmas tree. That will remind you of the date, 1776, Xmas day. Next, you will hear the dog Hiss, reminding you of the Hessians, who the Americans defeated, in the first major American victory of the Revolution.
Endwords
You don’t have to know everything, just the important things. All it takes to be a
genius are a few tools and strategies to learn and remember. They are listed here, will you use them?
See ya,
copyright© 2006
H. Bernard Wechsler
Author, Speed Reading For Professionals, published by Barron's; former
partner of Evelyn Wood, creator of speed reading, graduating 2 million,
including the White House staffs of four U.S. Presidents.
Interviewed by the Wall Street Journal and Fortune Magazine.