Those Who Stand Up To Life Hardships

"People who are brave enough to stand up to life's hardships have a better chance of surmounting them. They are thus more likely to acquire satisfying jobs and loving relationships. They are also apt to be more highly esteemed."

-- Melvyn L. Fein

Courage To Fulfill Your Potential

"If people are to be winners, if they are to fulfill their potential, they must possess courage. If they do not, if they make excuses and avoid the possibility of failure, they are sure to fail—no matter how strenuously they proclaim their inherent worth." 

-- Melvyn L. Fein

Get Lasting Self Satisfactions

"Resources acquired with little effort and praise obtained without exertion are empty. They do not provide lasting satisfactions because they are not secured through personal merit."

-- Melvyn L. Fein

The Need To Love Reading

"On a more general level, becoming a skilled reader opens a universe of possibilities. People who are not overawed by the written word have a place to go when they do not have answers.  They thereby take advantage of what others have learned. This enables them to figure out what to do in situations that they have not previously encountered."

-- Melvyn L. Fein

Faking It Till It Became Normal

"Faking it till we make it is part of the normal process of becoming competent. No one is skilled from the first moment they try something new. Likewise few of us are free of trepidations when we enter virgin territory"

-- Melvyn L. Fein

The Need To Deal with Our Fears

"Those of us who have less courage require a more indirect approach. We need to deal with our fears incrementally. Not one decisive battle, but many small encounters are needed for us to become more daring. This has the advantage of freeing our energies for other endeavors."

-- Melvyn L. Fein

How Not To Let Your Fear Multiply

"You've heard the advice. If you fall off a horse, you must immediately get back on. If you do not, your fears are liable to multiply exponentially. Should this occur, you might never get on another horse ever again. Better therefore to suck up your courage and try once more. Then if this fails, you are asked to climb on again. As long as it takes, and however much you may get bruised, you must never give up. To make a habit of backing down would ensure a lifetime of weakness."

-- Melvyn L. Fein

Fear Heightens Our Awareness

"As athletes know, fear can provide an edge. It heightens our awareness and provides the power to try our best. As long as it does not mutate into panic, it furnishes an advantage over less motivated adversaries. Fearful people do not need to be docile. Their fear can prepare them to act. Likewise, those who remain lucid are able to plan ahead. They can develop strategies designed to maximize their assets while taking advantage of their opponent's liabilities."

-- Melvyn L. Fein

Master Our Fears To Fulfill Our Potentials

"Unless we are prepared to deal with our fears regarding defeat, offence, and pain, we cannot protect ourselves from life's hazards. In addition, only if we master our fears can we fulfill our potentials. Forever holding back is a prescription for ruin."

-- Melvyn L. Fein