People Who Get What They Want

"People who get what they want are generally decisive people. And if you want to do this without having to ask, you need to be doubly firm with yourself. It’s OK —decisive behavior may not come naturally to all of us, but you can learn it. Just jump in with both feet. It gets easier every time."

-- Richard Templar

Make A Firm Decision To Take Action

"If you want something, you have to go for it. You don’t necessarily have to sacrifice everything (sometimes you do) but you do have to make a firm decision to take action. It’s no good saying you want to give up smoking if you just carry on lighting up and thinking how nice it would be if you could stop. Do something about it."

-- Richard Templar

Think Where You Need To Invest All That Hard Work

"So work out what you need to do to get what you want—the evening classes you need to attend, the sales you need to achieve, the bills you need to pay off, the qualifications you need to gain, the weight you need to lose. Then think about exactly where you need to put the effort in to make it actually happen. What will be crucial? That’s where you need to invest all that hard work."

-- Richard Templar

No One Owes Us Anything

 "Listen, no one owes you anything. We get what we want by a combination of a bit of luck and a lot of hard work. If you want stuff, you work. Simple as that." 

-- Richard Templar

Never Let The Downs Drag You Down

 "Don’t let the downs drag you down. Face them philosophically. Just say to yourself, “Ah, this is one of those downs I knew would crop up at some point,” and deal with it. Yes it’s a pain, but no, it doesn’t have to ruin all your plans."

-- Richard Templar

Self Belief Will Drive You To Succeed

 "If you believe that you deserve this, are capable of it, can achieve it—whether it’s making enough money to buy a house, patching up your relationship, owning a Ferrari, or becoming a less anxious person —then you’ll make it happen. That self belief will drive you to succeed where you’d have had no chance if you were expecting to fail. Your level of self-belief isn’t just about motivation, it will actually change the outcome. And you’d better believe it."

-- Richard Templar

Positive Thinking Not Only for Positive People

 "Remind yourself of all the times you—and others—have got what they want despite obstacles and challenges, and list all the reasons why you should succeed. Positive thinking isn’t something that only positive people can do. It’s quite the other way around. Positive people are so because they choose to think positive thoughts."

-- -- Richard Templar

Get Yourself Into The Right Frame of Mind

"It’s important to get yourself into the right frame of mind. A positive frame of mind. Don’t give yourself permission to be pessimistic about the outcome. Don’t allow yourself to go through scenarios in your mind that involve you failing at this, or being too late for that, or just missing out, or being told you haven’t earned/won/got what you want. As soon as your mind starts to head that way, be firm. Tell yourself, “No.” That kind of thinking is forbidden, banned, verboten."

-- Richard Templar

Don't Take No For An Answer

"Want to know why some people always seem to get what they want? It’s because they don’t sit around making excuses and hoping it will just manifest out of thin air while they’re waiting. They do it despite all the obstacles that could deter them. They get their heads down, and they don’t take no for an answer."

-- Richard Templar

Take Some Detailed Thoughts and Planning

"Anything worth having is going to take some detailed thought and planning and preparing and ground work laying. If it’s not down in writing you risk leaving out something vital that slows you down or even stops you in your tracks."

-- Richard Templar

The Power of Positive Thought is Huge

"The power of positive thought is huge. Just by consciously acknowledging your achievements along the way, you’ll feel more successful. And that, in turn, will make your future challenges seem more achievable. So it really is important to celebrate. Some celebrations may be private and others may be very public—I don’t care how you do it so long as you realize how well you’ve done."

-- Richard Templar

The Important of Milestones

"Milestones are important for two reasons. For one thing they help you to get organized so that you can launch your plan more effectively. And for another thing they ensure you stay on track and keep pointing toward your destination."

-- Richard Templar

Treat Every Steps Seriously

"Sometimes what you want should be achievable in a fairly short time. But other aspirations are too big to take a blind jump at. You need to break them into manageable steps. And the important thing is to treat every one of those steps seriously—think each one through as carefully as you would if they were your eventual goal and not just a starting point."

-- Richard Templar

Work Out How To Get It

"Look, you have to put something in to get something out. A lot of the work may simply be a matter of thinking, or it might take months of long hard work. But however it might look from the outside, good things don’t just fall into people’s laps. Not very often anyway. If you want something you have to work out how to get it, and this is the first stage of that process."

-- Richard Templar

Do Something About It

"If you want something, you have to go for it. You don’t necessarily have to sacrifice everything (sometimes you do) but you do have to make a firm decision to take action. It’s no good saying you want to give up smoking if you just carry on lighting up and thinking how nice it would be if you could stop. Do something about it."

-- Richard Templar

Be Open To Possibilities

"You can’t always predict what’s going to come your way. But if you are open to possibility, and are willing to give things a try to see where it takes you, sometimes it will take you to a place you couldn’t have envisioned but that is perfect for you. It might be that you get something that is not exactly what you originally envisioned as your goal, but you can decide to want it having already gotten it."

-- Richard Templar

What Exactly You Want

"You see, the clearer you are about what exactly you want, the easier it is to aim for it. Otherwise you may not even know when you’ve got it."

-- Richard Templar