Liberate yourself of your self-imposed limitations. Free yourself of heavy chains and old baggage that weigh you down and hamper you from moving forward. Do not sabotage your own success, your happiness and enjoyment of life. If your inner dialogue is now saying, ‘What is she talking about, I do nothing of the sort. I do not sabotage myself!’ I would say maybe you’re right but then on the other hand, there is a good chance that you could be wrong about that. Just think, how many times have you procrastinated doing something that you needed to do and you kept putting it off till later. How many times have you had brilliant ideas and you let them just fly by you without taking action to make them come true. How many times have you given in to the part of you that is lazy or depressed, and just laid back and let life pass you by. How many times have you done something that you knew very well is not good for you, yet you did it anyway. I bet you have habits right now that you know very well bring you nothing good, yet you carry on happily continuing with the bad habits always finding an excuse why you can’t do this or can’t do that, telling yourself it wouldn’t have worked anyway.
If that is not sabotaging yourself then what is? Do you want to know who your worst enemy is? You are. We’ve heard this a zillion times before. YOU are your worst enemy. Accept that! But it doesn’t have to be that way. So why not turn the tables and change that right now and learn to be your own best friend?
You can turn a page right now and decide to be friends with yourself. If you can’t be your own best friend, how can you be a good friend to anyone else? Start right now to cultivate a good habit. Be a good friend to your own self and you’ll never be lonely again. Become aware and accept yourself with all your good points but also your many faults and then begin systematically, to tackle each fault at a time, and make an effort to correct it. You don’t have to be perfect but you can give a go at being the very best you can be. You have dormant potential in you that you’re not even aware of, and unless you explore, tap in to get it out, you’ll never know what you are capable of. No one will know just how good you are. Surprise yourself and your friends, why ever not? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Where do you begin, how do you start? Well, I have news for you. You have started already. The fact that you are reading this right now, shows that you are interested and curious to know more and that is a very good sign. From here you carry on in several ways. I’ll suggest some for you and you take it from there.
First thing do not stop after this. Reading this e book is not the end it is just the beginning. Make a habit from now on of reading one book, after another, listening to one tape after another, watching one movie after another, that is inspirational, educational, motivational. Listen to the hints, accept them practice them and work continuously to develop yourself. Religious people read the scriptures and learn to memorize what is written word for word. I’m not so convinced that they even understand what they are memorizing. There lies a big problem of misinterpretation of what they are memorizing. You want to read motivational books and you do not have to learn anything by heart, but you want to understand what is written. Even if you read the bible, understand each paragraph you are reading, look for the real message. The key is to understand the whys as well as the hows. Then you want to practice what you read, you want to experiment and to practice until you see and feel the difference in your life. Seek help if you find it difficult to change, get a coach, go to a therapist. Do whatever it takes. Just don’t give up on yourself. You are important to you.
Second you will want to surround yourself with happy, motivational, inspirational, enthusiastic, intelligent, healthy people. Be choosy who you move around with, who you allow into your inner circle, who you befriend. We are influenced whether we like it or not by what surrounds us. We are all influenced, whether we like or not by our environment and by the people we meet every day. It can’t be helped, it just happens no matter how strong we are and how much we resist it. For example, if you keep the company of people who are in the habit of speaking foul language, using curse words with every sentence, in time your ears will be so accustomed to this that you will inevitably begin to speak and sound like them. You might fight it for a while but if you persist in keeping that company you can’t win. How does the old saying go? Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.
Third live a healthy life, watch your nutrition habits, eat healthy fresh foods that give you energy, avoid drugs and narcotics, exercise your body. Once you have tasted the bliss of being physically healthy, you won’t want to be otherwise. Your body is the temple of your soul and you should take good care of it. You only have this one body for this lifetime so for it to serve you well, you need to care for it the same as you would take care of your car if you wanted it to work well.
Fourth add cultural activities to your agenda on a weekly basis. Art, music, beauty is nourishment for the soul. Visit a museum at least once a month, go to art shows, see documentaries to widen your knowledge about history, science, geography and the arts. The more knowledge you have the more self confidence you will gain and the more interesting you will be to talk to. Move around with people who know more than you, people with culture and good manners who speak well, people on the move and who contribute to the world around them. We are living in turbulent times and are exposed to chaos and violence constantly which can be very depressing. Join the army of those who contribute to humanity, put your energy there, that’s where you’ll find hope, love and joy.
At the same time remember to take time off, to be on your own, with yourself, to have time to reflect, to digest, to accept, to retain the good and to throw away the bad and the useless. Our bodies do that with food naturally and we need to learn individually to do the same emotionally and mentally. We need to analyze and to digest our experiences, our emotions as well as our thoughts, to throw away negativity and to retain what makes us feel good. Failing to do that means you store away a lot of garbage in your body and which in time produces disease, physical or mental. Spend some time regularly in solitude. Give yourself a rest. Give yourself time to dream and to be. That is when the best and most constructive ideas come to you.
Margo Kirtikar PhD
http://www-visionsunusual.com
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