One of the biggest factors that prevents people from achieving their dreams is their willingness to give in to self-imposed limitations that have been nurtured over the years.
Some of the causes of these self-inflicted beliefs are:
- A lack of belief in ones abilities and possibilities.
- The fear of failure.
- The fear of criticism or rejection from others.
- A fear of success.
- A lack of desire.
- Giving in to the expectations and rules of others.
- A desire to conform.
- A lack of clear goals.
- Inadequate passion.
No wonder so few people realize their dreams in life. There seems to be an unlimited number of factors that can sabotage our willingness to stretch out and reach for more as we move through the days of our lives and march to an unknown drummer. I am one of the fortunate ones. I have seldom given in to what can not be done but what is possible. Oh yes, there is more I could have done if I had had:
-A better leg up in life with wealthy parents.
-A better education.
-More money.
-A career advocate early in my life
-More successes than failures during the last 50 years.
And the list goes on and on, but what is - is and what was – was. So Tim just get over it and move on.
I have chosen to follow the philosophy: start where you are, do what you can with what you have and don’t worry about what you can’t do, don’t have and have not become yet. It hasn’t always been easy to hold on to my dreams for: happiness, achievement, peace, harmony, balance, success and recognition - but how important are any of these - if you lack a contented heart - knowing you have done the best you could with the gifts of time and talent you were given?
Most limitations are nothing more than an internal speedometer that is stuck on: be safe, don’t risk, be careful, don’t fail, what will other’s think, don’t be different and any number of internal messages that we have been given or adopted during our life. Life, my friends is too short to live without ‘going for it.’ What would you try if you knew failure was impossible? If success was assured? Why wait. Get started. Do it now. You
have nothing to lose that matters but, you have everything to lose if you end your life with: Why didn’t I, I could have, I should have…
Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com
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